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March 24, 2020 at 1:12 pm in reply to: Adopting a dog at 70 #3349

Alyssa O’Mara
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Hi Louise, have you already found your pooch? I hope so, he/she will keep you company during this period. If you haven’t, it depends on where you are located. We got one of our dogs from here: https://www.sghrescue.org/. They are in Dedham. They put a lot of work ingo finding the right dog for you and would never let a dog who is unfriendly go to a home with kids. There’s also Petfinder.com. You can find dogs that are local to you, or could get to you. The sources are all different so I have no idea what the screening process is like, bu this site is liked by many. Good luck!

March 24, 2020 at 1:02 pm in reply to: Converting to online classes #3348

Alyssa O’Mara
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I am not a teacher, but if I put myself in the shoes of a student I think your plan sounds reasonable. I attended Photography school and we had classroom critiques every week. Would that work for you? I see you have one on one critiques already on the schedule. Good luck!

March 24, 2020 at 12:54 pm in reply to: Time to try something new #3347

Alyssa O’Mara
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I love to travel and that’s out the window for the moment, but I am making lists and planning trips that I may take one day. All my research is in Evernote and waiting for the day I am able to go!

December 12, 2019 at 2:21 pm in reply to: How do you resolve financial disagreements with your spouse? #3154

Alyssa O’Mara
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Maybe hire a financial advisor to get a third, professional, opinion? If nothing else, it could give you peace of mind.

December 12, 2019 at 2:18 pm in reply to: How does a financial planner get paid? #3153

Alyssa O’Mara
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I’ve had planners ask for a flat rate and others ask for a percentage of your portfolio. Like a lot of things, it depends.

December 11, 2019 at 3:48 pm in reply to: Adult children: What do you want to find in the attic? #3149

Alyssa O’Mara
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I would want to find anything that would help me know my parents more. Who they were as young adults, hopes, dreams etc. So those letters would be fabulous. Your crutches from when you slipped on the ice 20 years ago, not so much. 🙂

December 11, 2019 at 3:44 pm in reply to: Our kids think we’re crazy #3148

Alyssa O’Mara
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@newyorkfasion1 How’s it going? Are you on the road yet?

September 5, 2019 at 3:41 pm in reply to: Down Sizing? #2671

Alyssa O’Mara
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I don’t have specific advice for you on the details of downsizing, but I offer this from my own experience:

My Mother held onto her 4 bedroom colonial with lots of land for years after all of us had moved out. Here memories were there she thought. She liked to garden. She spent a lot of years getting the decor how she wanted it. She finally, in her mid-60s, decided to sell and move in to an over 55 community. Once she was in and settled it was like a giant weight was lifted off her shoulders. She now had the time to get back to her crafting and all of the other things that actually brought her joy, including more time for her grandkids. And her memories moved right along with her. 🙂

September 5, 2019 at 3:27 pm in reply to: Assisted Living might be splitting up my parents. #2670

Alyssa O’Mara
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Often when someone’s memory goes it brings up a whole host of issues that you can’t conceive of now, making it extremely difficult to manage that person. If your parents are in an assisted living facility that has a memory care unit, it might end up being the best solution for both parents. I know you don’t want to hear that now.

I have a relative that is living in a memory care unit and I see the spouses coming and going all the time. Often the couple will spend their day together in the memory care unit so they have the care needed available to them, but the spouse does not have to take part in the personal care or other things that are difficult. They can just be the spouse and share the time together.

This is a difficult time and I’m sorry you or any of us have to go through it. Don’t hesitate to reach out to the families of people living in these accommodations. Most of us are happy to share experiences and tips for navigating through this difficult situation.

September 5, 2019 at 3:16 pm in reply to: Do I really need a will? #2669

Alyssa O’Mara
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You may want to look into setting up a trust as well. This might make things even easier when the time comes. Again, you would need to seek a lawyer on this one.
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